I want to write the definitive text on Brexit that would convince the other half of the electorate why we should be in the EU. The one great banger that would resolve everything, convince everyone, reverse this awful decision and take us back to the productive era before Brexit, before we were spending our time and energy talking about it.

But unfortunately, I am obliged to deal with the prospect of leaving the European Union in March 2019. It fills me with dismay; not only having to deal with frustration but also with the "reality" that unlike me, some compatriots do not want to be in Europe.

In fact, having attended a minor public school, I am already cut off from half the population. I am in the liberal bourgeois half. For the working class I am posh and for the upper-class not posh enough and so I can neither be in one club nor the other and thus firmly confined to the infamous middle-class.

Or perhaps this is the image of class Britain which remains, and which has been worsened and highlighted through Brexit. I would have hoped otherwise, that "working people" would also see the benefits of being in the EU and not just left to us liberal intellectuals and business leaders. It is heartening then to find a plumber who started the slogan "Bollocks to Brexit."

But as I continue my journey through Twitter, reading the #Brexit tag every day and although heartened that it is often anti-Brexit and pro-remain, there are also so many disappointments, people who still support Brexit based on the idea of independence and sovereignty, a misplaced British pride. I do not understand this. I do not know why we cannot be proud to be British and proud to be European.

Somehow people think that if we admit to being European, that we align with the Germans and the Germans are still the Nazis. When will we grow up, get over it and why are these feelings still present? I feel somehow that this is the football hooligan element which loves to hate and be aggressive, controversial, provocative, who needs an enemy, someone to shout at and blame it all on and reads The Sun and The Mirror, the gutter press who stoke nationalist feeling, for their benefit.

I do understand that for so long Britain has been on the borderline: Thatcher negotiating the rebate, not being in Schengen, not entirely being in Europe and still referring to Europe as "the continent."

So, Brexit fits the image of a Britain apart: not quite in, not entirely out. And somehow this contributes to British pride as if this were a good thing, somehow doing them over, being in for the benefits and avoiding the cost. Good old Britain you got a good deal there. And our silly European cousins are obliged to play the European game because they're on the continent, we are an island, and that somehow means that we don't need Europe.

And then I hear the BNP and others going on about the war, that we fought to gain our independence. We struggled to avoid being invaded by the Nazis, but the Nazis have gone. The Europe of today is about business; it's about people, it's about cultural exchange, the mixing of cultures. And of course, this makes the Nationalists frightened as if cultures disappear when they mix with others. But they don’t.

When have you ever decided to become a Muslim because your neighbour is one or a Christian or a Hare Krishna? Never. You learn from them and respect their existence. And again, if Fascism were to return to Europe as it appears to be doing in some quarters, surely it is better to be in the decision-making structures to legislate against such subversives.

Do you feel less British because you hear Polish people walking down the street? Does that remove your Britishness? Or does it just make you proud to be British and to share your values with the people living around you?

What does it mean to be British? Anti-European? Is that the cultural identity that we want to foster these days? Stiff upper lip? Football hooligan? Good in finance? Living in Britain? Having a house in Oxfordshire and able to trace back your family to 1742 and speak with a posh accent? Could one say all these things?

I fear our future relationship with Europe. Project Fear they say is just invention, that there is nothing to worry about and that because we are British, we can get over it, nothing is unsolvable. That may be a good mantra for bolstering our confidence, but the practicalities are I think different. Once outside the EU we will no longer be part of the decision-making process, we will have to put up with the decisions made in Europe without having any say in shaping them.

If we complain about what is decided in Europe today, then we are only going to complain more about it in the future once we have to comply with it but unable to influence it. How do we expect to affect Europe when not part of the Union? By stamping our feet? We tried that from within the union, and it wasn't always successful. We're not good at accepting the consensus, but it certainly won't be any more successful once out.

We will have to comply with European standards at the very least to export and yet unable to shape those standards. Do we expect Europe to listen to us? No, they will forge ahead and expect us to comply.

And this will only serve to heighten the anti-European feeling. We will point to the new EU and say how uncompromising it is. We have already done this when looking to negotiations. We are surprised that they do not want to change their rules when we have elected to leave the club. Can we not understand that to change the rules, we need to be a member: this is after all how it works in golf is it not?

They say Project Fear is about creating the fear of leaving. But it is not. It is instead about understanding the isolation that will be Britain in the world of clubs. Johnson and co are reactionary. They say that jolly old Great Britain will stand up to them. You can say whatever you want. The reality is that we will be alone, we will no longer be in the club, the club will forge ahead making its decisions without us, and we will have to accept them. We will shout and complain and point to them as being those bloody Europeans again, expecting them to heed us but we will have thrown away our chance.

And so, we will turn to the rest of the world hoping and expecting them to do deals with us. They will, but all the while focused on their deals with the European Union, telling us that we are getting a bargain and yet preserving their best prices for our neighbours.